By J. William DeMarco
Read a great article from Inc.com this AM on humility: Inspire People to Follow: Practice Humility by John Baldoni
…maybe I should be listening. For me personally it is hard not to be humble when I see all the great people in the USAF, but many times our actions might not reflect our feelings. I am truly humbled to serve with such great Americans. I am humbled to be a part of the 100th with its incredible legacy, I am humbled to be a part of such a great family both my personal family and my USAF family…
Possibly a lack of humility comes from trying to impress others as we try to “influence’ them with our perceived greatness. As we hosted the 100 BG vets I was honored to be surrounded by heroes, and listening to Erwin McManus the other day….he mentioned we all want to be heroes… I think that is true.
But in our search to be larger than life perhaps we forget that we are just humans…people with a million flaws. People really can see us for who we really are–no matter how we try to hide it. If anyone has read any of these blog entries… you know this is a big deal for me, I even preached on it a bit on leaving a legacy.
If our goal is to impress people…we can be pretentious…honestly people see right through that–no matter who you are. Years ago I was heavily involved in martial arts… I had an instructor, Master Cho, who was fond of saying, “There is always somebody bigger, badder, and better…” That is really true … and it applies to all walks of life…
So if we want to influence
(as mentioned yesterday)
, don’t try to impress them. Pride is really nothing more than a form of selfishness, and pretense is only a way to keep people at arm’s length so that they can’t see who you really are. Instead of impressing others, let them impress you.
Maybe it is just a matter of attitude, but I am so fortunate to work with people that impress me everyday… as a commander I need to focus on them not on myself. Of course there are many things I need to work on, but I love the fact that I am surrounded by heroes everyday… it just does not get much better than that.